At the moment, most well-respected and trusted experts in Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS) prevention are fairly consistent in their prevention recommendations: Click here to review a previous post in which I provide a brief summary of these recommendations. For the most part, I follow these guidelines pretty diligently and relay the recommendations to my patients’ families. But there is one item on the list that has given me pause and has sparked considerable controversy around the world: that babies less than 1 year of age should not share the same sleeping surface with another adult or child; it is recommended that babies sleep in their own crib, bassinet, or bed.
This recommendation is supported by fairly well-designed studies. Not only that, the data is fairly convincing. So why the controversy? Well, to start with, many families choose to bed-share and feel safe, happy, and content with their decision. A strong recommendation against this practice risks not only imposing guilt on these parents, but may also undermine their right to choose for themselves how best to raise their children. It is probably also worth noting that in many non-western communities, bed-sharing is a family practice deeply entrenched in their cultural way of life. There would have to be some pretty strong reasons to justify drastically disrupting the cultural practices of millions, perhpas billions of people around the world. Though compelling, the above arguments are cultural, personal, and emotional. They are not scientifically derived, something that our modern health communities demand when justifying the implementation of population-wide health policies.
So we turn to science. Is there any medical research out there that might challenge this notion that bed-sharing increases a baby’s risk of dying from SIDS? Well, there doesn’t appear to be any direct evidence (though I would be most pleased if someone can prove me wrong on this). However, there certainly seems to be some indirect evidence. For one, among the many babies studied who died from SIDS, it is interesting to note that the majority of these babies also had other risk factors at play. In other words, many of these babies were exposed to second-hand smoke, were sleeping next to parents who had consumed alcohol, or were sleeping next to their parents on a couch or chair. In these instances, it is unclear whether the act of bed-sharing, per se, had anything to do with the unfortunate SIDS outcome. Another interesting perspective: research has demonstrated that one of the most effective ways to protect a baby from SIDS is to ensure exclusive breastfeeding. Even for those who feed both formula and breast milk, the risk of SIDS decreases as the amount of breastmilk relative to formula consumed increases. Interestingly, studies looking at bed-sharing and breastfeeding have demonstrated that babies who sleep with their mothers are more likely to breastfeed exclusively (or consume a higher ratio of breastmilk to formula) in their first 6 months of life. It follows, then, that an intervention which increases a community’s breastfeeding rates should reduce that community’s incindence of SIDS. So it is entirely possible that recommending against bed sharing undermines successful breastfeeding, the consequences of which may ultimately contribute to an uptick in the overall incidence of SIDS.
This argument is very theoretical and, in my opinion, insufficient to justify a healthcare practitioner advocating bed-sharing per se. On the other hand, after layering on the emotional, personal, and cultural components of this argument, and upon taking into consideration that bed-sharing enhances breastfeeding rates, the benefits of which go far beyond protecting against SIDS, I am left feeling most uncomfortable advocating for the current recommendation against this practice.
So what do I recommend when discussing bed-sharing and SIDS with parents of newborns babies? Well, my approach is to present the most relevant and up-to-date information available in the form of an informal pros and cons list. I then do my best to support the parents in making a decision that best suits that particular family. It is, after all, a decision that has far more impact on them and their family than on myself or the experts who publish these guidelines.
For a fantastic and quite thorough review of this issue, consider reading this guidelines paper released earlier this year by the Perinatal Provincial Health Services Authority, British Columbia.
I would love to hear what others have to say about this. Do comment below.
I had to bed share with my daughter up until 5 months old because she was a terrible sleeper. We really had no choice. With that said, I know many people who practice attachment parenting and co-sleeping is a big principle in this parenting style. I believe that every family has to take in consideration any risks associated with what they are doing and then consider their own situation and make a decision that suits their family best. It’s difficult when a health practitioner tells you that you should absolutely NOT do something (unless of course it’s illegal or harmful to your child), especially when that something could be the only thing that saves your sanity. There are many moms who do not do their own research and take the words of their Dr.’s and nurses as the gospel. In these cases, a mom who can only get a few hours of sleep only if she co sleeps, might choose to stop on the recommendation of her Dr./nurse. Severe lack of sleep can lead to so many negative things such as PP depression etc… I think one has to do what works best for their family (taking in the risks of course).
Hi Diana. I agree with you. The decision to bedshare is not isolated from the myriad of other challenges, choices, experiences that new parents face. One truly needs to balance the risks and benefits when facing these dilemmas.
It occurred to me while walking to work this morning that 15,000 children die each year in the US as a consequence of motor vehicle accidents. Approximately 2500-5000 SIDS deaths occur per year in the US. One could argue that banning children from automobiles would have a far greater beneficial impact than recommending against bedsharing. But we are generally comfortable with the risks of driving. On the other hand, we tend to be far less comfortable or feel far more guilty sleeping with our babies despite the risk being orders of magnitude lower.
I really appreciate you raising this question Dan. At the end of the day most parents will bed share with their baby at some point even if it’s accidentally or just for a short period. I think it is better to present the facts to parents about the research but also to advise them on how to most safely bed share. If parents feel they will just get a lecture, they are less likely to share what they are doing with their health care practitioners and that, in my opinion, is dangerous. We cannot expect to help parents or give them advice to suit their needs and lifestyles if they are telling us what they think we want to hear instead of what they are actually doing! I believe that we should share the information but then leave the decisions to the parents.
Hey Helen. Thanks for this very valuable perspective. I particularly appreciate the point you raise re: parents/patients saying what they feel the health provider wants to hear rather than then discussing the actual isssue(s) at hand.
Re: your comment about how, in addition to presenting parents with facts (i.e. pros and cons), there should also be a counselling piece on how to safely bed-share: coincidentally, the author of the next comment in this thread shares some great tips on how to keep bed-sharing as safe as possible.
Thanks again for your comments.
I didn’t co-sleep with my daugther until she was a few months old because it wasn’t until that time that I really got the hang of feeding while lying down. However, when I had my son, I co-slept from the beginning. I had a bassinett beside my bed and in the beginning of the evening, I would put him down in the bassinett, but after the 1st wake up, I usually pulled him into the bed with me. I know I don’t move much in my sleep, even less when I know I have a child beside me and I was careful to never take any medications that might make me drowsy or have any blankets near his face. I also never drank, not even one drink since it had been a while since I had last drank and I didn’t know how alcohol and lack of sleep would affect me.
With a toddler to care for as well, I co-slept more as a way to help me get some more sleep then I might have otherwise. I don’t regret co-sleeping and I know the recommendations in relations to reducing the risk of SIDS, but I also knew we were low risk since this is a smoke free home and both my kids were exclusively breastfed. Besides, I figured the bigger risk was me dozing off sitting up while nursing. At least I knew if we co-slept there was no risk of him falling out of my arms.
I thought I read somewhere that co-sleeping actually could reduce the risk of SIDS, since the baby is right beside you they measure their breathing to yours and your warmth and heartbeat helps to keep them on track…as long as you haven’t been drinking or smoking or something along those lines. Not sure though so don’t quote me on that.
I think it’s also important to use the correct language. Co sleeping and bed sharing are two different things. Co sleeping means sharing the same room, which is recommended for the first 6 months by the CPS, with the baby in his/her own crib/basinette. Bedsharing is the baby actually sharing the bed with the mother or with both parents.
We bedshared for 1.5 years. My daughter never slept in her cot at all, she was a very demanding baby and nothing we did could settle her by herself. Even with outside help and advice we (and no-one else) never managed to settle her by herself. When we asked why we were told that she was just “one of those babies”. She is now 2.5 and happily sleeps in her toddler bed in her own room. I took all the recommended precautions for co-sleeping and she was exclusively breastfed, I never felt that she was in any danger. I consider driving to the shops a greater threat to her life than bedsharing.
Next baby will come straight into bed with us – I don’t see why we would bother going through the pain of trying to get them to sleep in their own space when we would be quite happy for them to share ours.